“You’re attempting to downgrade the worth of girls of coloration while you say the one purpose Italian males are drawn to them is as a result of they’re black,” Ms. Adams stated. “While you’re drawn to a sure type of individual, you’re drawn to a sure type of individual.”
However Alicia Rozario, a black lady who lives in Seattle and is touring to Milan for a month in April to determine if she needs to maneuver completely, stated she thinks some skepticism is legitimate. “I’m effectively conscious of the truth that Italians are intrigued as a result of we’re black — there’s just a little little bit of exoticism with that, so it’s important to filter like while you date wherever else,” she stated.
An emotional availability
Among the many causes the ladies stated they discovered love extra simply in Italy is that Italian tradition encourages males to be up entrance about their feelings, one thing males in the USA and different international locations are discouraged from doing, Ms. Adams and others stated.
Three years in the past, after transferring to Paris with a associate, Ms. Adams discovered herself sad in her relationship, so she determined to go on a solo journey to Italy for just a few days. Whereas in Milan, she met Matteo La Cognata, a person who spent two days exhibiting her town. Earlier than she left Milan for Venice and Rome, he invited her to remain for good. She thought he was “utterly loopy” she stated, and handed.
When she returned to Paris, she realized that she didn’t wish to be there anymore. She ended her relationship and flew to Milan. She met Mr. La Cognata’s household, moved in with him. They now have a 2-year-old son and predict their second baby within the spring. The directness of Mr. La Cognata’s strategy was at first perplexing, however in the end, refreshing, Ms. Adams stated.
“There isn’t lots of hesitation, whereas within the U.S., persons are at all times attempting you out, even when they such as you,” she stated.
Mr. La Cognata stated that though he has at all times been extra drawn to non-Italian ladies, he didn’t “have any specific thought of African-American ladies” till he met Ms. Adams.